Separated but Under One Roof: Navigating the Challenges
Living under one roof while separated is one of the toughest challenges of divorce. In this episode, Laura and Lyn discuss the emotional, legal, and logistical hurdles of coexisting with your ex-partner. They share practical strategies for setting boundaries, managing finances, protecting your safety, and planning for the next steps in your separation. Whether you’re navigating this situation temporarily or for the foreseeable future, this episode provides actionable insights to help you survive—and thrive.
Listen to This Episode If You:
- 🏠 Are living with your ex-partner post-separation.
- ❓ Need guidance on setting emotional and physical boundaries in the shared space.
- 💡 Want advice on co-parenting and managing household finances.
- 🛡 Are worried about coercive control or financial abuse.
- 📚 Are preparing for the next steps in your separation or divorce journey.
Key Topics Discussed in This Episode:
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Setting Boundaries:
- How to create physical and emotional space in a shared home.
- Tips for minimizing conflict and maintaining privacy.
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Legal Considerations:
- Can your ex legally force you out of the home?
- When family violence orders may apply and what to do if you feel unsafe.
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Communication Strategies:
- Managing discussions to avoid unnecessary conflict.
- Protecting yourself by communicating like the judge is watching.
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Financial Management:
- Dividing household expenses fairly and preparing for financial independence.
- Understanding spousal maintenance and consent orders during separation.
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Co-Parenting While Living Together:
- Creating a parenting schedule to avoid misunderstandings.
- Protecting your time with your kids from manipulative behaviours.
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Emotional and Practical Self-Care:
- Building routines to maintain mental well-being.
- Seeking support from friends, professionals, or community groups.
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Preparing for the Next Steps:
- Documenting assets and financial information.
- Consulting a lawyer to develop a safety plan for the future.
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Safety Considerations:
- Recognizing signs of coercive control and financial abuse.
- Creating and implementing a safety plan if the situation becomes unsafe.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
- Separation Under One Roof Do’s and Don’ts
- Episode: 10 Boundaries to Set During Separation
- Does Family Violence Affect Property Settlement?
- Episode: Income, Expenses, and Property Settlement Tips
- Mortgages and Divorce
- Episode: Recognizing Coercive Control in Relationships
Free Resources:
Emergency Contacts:
- Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support.
- DVConnect Women’s Line: Call 1800 811 811 for immediate help.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (1800 RESPECT): Call 1800 737 732 for confidential support.
- Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for support tailored to men.
- Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for counseling for children and young people.
Final Thoughts:
This episode offers both practical and emotional advice for anyone facing the challenge of living under one roof with their ex. Learn how to set boundaries, protect yourself, and plan for your future. You’re not alone—help and support are available to guide you through this difficult time.
Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your situation.
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